Robert T. Fay, 84, of Massena

Robert T. Fay, 84, of Massena

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Massena - Robert T. Fay, of Massena, NY, passed away May 24, 2018 in Colchester, VT at the age of 84.

Bob was born in Massena, NY on October 22, 1933 to parents Thomas J. and Ruth (Barber) Fay. He graduated from Massena High School in 1952. Bob worked for the Massena Post Office for 38 years in the capacities of carrier, clerk, and supervisor, finishing his career as a U.S. postmaster.

Bob will be remembered for his dry wit, dedication to his family, and living a life of service. At Sacred Heart Church he served as a trustee, a member of the committee that started the endowment fund, and an usher for 49 years, known by many as “The Singing Usher”. Bob served as secretary and treasurer for Massena Federal Credit Union, was a lifetime member of the Knights of Columbus Council #1141, and was a member of the Massena Rotary Club as an honorary trustee and a Paul Harris Fellow.

He served for many years on the Massena Central School Board. He was often seen flipping pancakes at the annual Rotary Club Pancake Day and singing at funerals at Sacred Heart. Bob loved finding treasures at auctions, working outside in his garden, and reading. He also enjoyed cheering on the New York Giants and Yankees.

Bob is survived by his loving wife, Joy (Lindley), with whom he would have celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary in June.  He will be dearly missed by his four children: Robin (Todd) Benware, Baldwinsville, NY; Deborah (Tom) Dempsey, Raleigh, NC; Sharon (Jeff) Kostis, Shapleigh, ME; and Thomas (Tara) Fay, Holland Patent, NY. Bob loved his 7 grandchildren: Katherine and Abigail Benware, Allison and Nathan Dempsey, Madelyn and Kevin Kostis, and Alyssa Fay.

Calling hours will be held Sunday June 10, 2018 from 7:00 to 9:00 P.M. at Phillips Memorial Home, Massena. A Mass of Christian burial will be held 10:00 A.M. Monday June 11, 2018 at Sacred Heart Church. Burial will be held privately at the convenience of the family.

As per the family’s request, in lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Trinity Catholic School; 188 Main St., Massena, NY 13662 or and the McClure Miller VNA Respite House; 3113 Roosevelt Hwy, Colchester, VT 05446 or

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